When I was a younger man I often struggled to find healthy ways to express my emotions. Fear manifested itself as anger and the line between cocky and confident was very thin. My teens and early 20’s were a mixed bag of confusion. To quote Mel Gibson as Capt. Benjamin Martin in The Patriot “I was intemperate in my youth.” 

Still today, I occasionally find myself misplacing certain emotions and directing them at others in an unfair or unhealthy way. Apologizing and making amends is fine, but prevention is best. The easiest way to go about that is by being mindful, something we tend to struggle with. Especially today, with the weight of the world planted directly on our shoulders. 

The following is a list of 5 things you should never do after an argument.

Have the Last Word

Even though it feels good to shout after the person you’ve been arguing with orveven just mumble under your breath, it isn’t constructive. All this does is open up the possibility of continuing the argument. Let sleeping dogs lie, take some time to gather your feelings, and if absolutely necessary present them in a constructive way later. 

Speak Poorly to Others

It’s important to remember, you’re not mad at the world, you’re upset at a situation. Treating others poorly only impacts someone else negatively. The last thing you need is two arguments to agonize over. 

Perform an Important Task

Do you remember your mother telling you never to drive when angry? This is pretty much the same thing. It’s easy to get distracted by negative emotions. That important project for work can wait. Take a few minutes to calm down, do something you enjoy. You don’t want to accidentally ruin several hours of hard work. 

Play the Blame Game

Accept responsibility for your share of the argument. It takes “two to tango”, the other party may be wrong in your eyes, however, they should only hold part of the blame. 

Hold on to the Anger

Anger is toxic! The longer you hold on to it, the more you poison yourself. You only harm yourself when you do anyway. Remember, you’re feelings are valid, but that doesn’t make them healthy. Write down how you feel or express yourself to a willing friend.

What are some other things you should never do after an argument?